ABS made no difference in the accident (yes, the van had it but the back end broke free and slewed the car around with no time to stop before I was over the edge).
I just drove home the new cache vehicle. We went with a manual tranny 2011 Subaru Forester. For those following along, this was my decision process:
Kia: While the backup sensors are a nice feature, the smaller load, the non-flat deck and the front piller blocking view of cars took it out of the running.
Honda: The load size and backup camera was very good, but the lower clearance pushed it to second place.
Subaru: The decent load, manual tranny, good clearance and flat deck moved it to top billing.
Toyota: The swing gate and rear tire/bike rack were too much negitive and overcame the cargo area seat release and load size.
Jeep: Price was great, clearance was the best, but the smaller back door, the headrest not fitting us and the small load took it off the list. With the Fredom Drive II it was more off-road vehicle than we needed.
If we hadn't found a used Forester, the CR-V was a close second - the manual tranny put it over the top. There was a 2009 Forester which we were also looking at, but the remaining warranty(s) were worth the couple of thousand more.
Thanks everyone for their input, recommendations and discussion. While I don't need the thread anymore, others may like to continue discussing various vehicles. Now if I can just get the GPSr back from Garmin so I can start using the vehicle...